Favorite clothes and accessories

It’s no secret that I have a lot of clothes – possibly a borderline abnormal amount. I’ve been trying to parse my wardrobe down – selling certain items on poshmark and donating the rest. I’ve been feeling weighed down by all of my ‘stuff’ and I want a more contained wardrobe consisting of items I truly love and feel great in. I was pretty inspired by Marie Kondo’s, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, and have been trying to feel the magic.

One of her suggestions is not to decide what to throw away, but to decide what to keep. This is definitely a more logical way of looking at your possessions and deciding what you truly love v. have an unproductive attachment to. I think another way to look at it is to be cognizant of the items you constantly reach for, and what items you pass over or try on and then take off. For instance, I have probably 15 pairs of jeans, but I wear the same three pairs over and over again. That’s kind of the basic principle of building your style – loving everything as much as your favorite pair of jeans.

Some of my favorite items include:

  • A day to night top. I bought this Madewell top a few months ago and I’ve reached for it countless times this summer. It looks great styled with denim, white jeans, and shorts. It’s loose and flowy, yet flattering. The blue and white stripes make it a classic style with a current spin.

  • A top for nights out. I bought this top at J.Crew during the holiday season and I always feel dressed to go out when I put it on. It’s fitted but the ruffles make it forgiving. The sheer black lace makes it sexy. It can be dressed up with a skirt or down with denim.

  • Great jeans. I’ve been a longtime fan of J.Crew’s toothpick jean. They always fit well, maintain their shape, and stretch but don’t stretch out.

  • A timeless purse. My Chanel bag is probably my favorite thing I own. Period. I feel grateful on a regular basis for buying it before it doubled in price…because then I probably wouldn’t have been able to justify buying it. If you’re shopping for a Chanel bag, buy the caviar (pebbled) leather. My bag has had a lot of wear, but looks like it’s in mint condition. The lambskin is beautiful but shows every scratch.

  • A dreamy cashmere sweater. I love the halogen cashmere cardigans from the Nordstrom Sale. I first bought one of these cardigans a few years ago, and they have been a regular fall/winter staple ever since. The cashmere is soft, thick and warm.

What my wardrobe is missing…

  • Shoes. find that I struggle with shoes! I know ‘the shoes make the outfit’ but I can’t get past the comfort factor and feel like I wear flip flops all summer and Uggs all winter. I’ve even tried to up my game with ‘dressy uggs’ (one shouldn’t be able to use those two words together). I’ve been trying to incorporate better shoes into my typical outfits…but this girl is all about comfort and I think comfort is always going to win.
  • The white button down shirt. Why is it so hard to find an amazing white button down shirt? I’m relatively flat chested but yet I’m a 38 width…so whenever I wear button downs that awkwardly gap at the bust. I’m looking for something that drapes elegantly but also looks crisp. Why can’t I find this?? Everyone must be looking for the same thing! I know it’s out there…and one day, I will find it.

Day 3 of gratitude

I realize that I missed two days…. but I’m back on the bandwagon.

I’m grateful for my job. I’m an attorney and I work for a big law firm. My days are busy and demanding. But! I work with people who I mostly genuinely like, including one of my best friends. I love going to court. My firm was extremely kind and understanding throughout the whole baby process – literally from sharing the news I was pregnant, to my maternity leave, to coming back. It made me feel so much better about coming back to work. I really admire and respect the managing attorney of my office and feel like I’d want to have his job one day. I remember being told that if you didn’t want your boss’s job it was a bad thing – and now I finally realize how accurate that was! And finally – I feel like I have a career and not just a job. It took me a while to get here but I’m so glad I did!

Day 2 of gratitude

Sometimes you just have to be grateful for the simple things. Like right now, I’m in bed. The baby is sleeping. I’m getting some quiet time on my phone. And my bed is so comfortable. It feels so good to be in bed. And I’m grateful for that.

365 days of gratitude

I was driving earlier, and thinking about a long list of things I want. I’m in the process of organizing my home and getting rid of a ton of things…yet I still constantly long for more things! Consumerism, materialism…they are crazy things.

It got me to thinking that I should focus more on what I do have v. What I don’t have. I was driving my brand new Lexus SUV, with my beautiful Chanel bag sitting in the front seat and my perfect baby boy in the back seat taking a peaceful nap. To the majority of the world, I’m sure I look like I have it all. And, if I shift my focus a little bit, I really do have everything that’s important in life.

Today, I’m going to start with what I’m most grateful for. My son. I love this boy with the deepest part of my core being. My days begin and end with him, and to quote Faith Evans (who must’ve been singing about her child, duh) I never knew there was a love like this before. I just love this kid so much – sometimes It makes me cry because the magnitude of the love is so overwhelming. I’m grateful for having a child and having THIS child. I’m grateful for having had a healthy pregnancy. I’m grateful for having had an uneventful delivery. I’m grateful for having a husband who takes an equal part in raising our son. I’m thankful for family who have helped us out. I’m grateful for a job that gives me flexibility so I can spend more time with him. I’m grateful for the privilege and opportunity to try to raise a man who’s going to do good in this world. I’m grateful for baby cuddles and baby laughs. I’m grateful for getting to be a mom.

Gardening 101

I’m trying to learn how to garden.

Last weekend, we bought a ton of new flowers including hydrangeas, pansies, impatiens, petunias, begonias, flox, and azaleas. There might be more that I’m forgetting about!

I began planting them in our front yard, by the house. I’ll call this step 1…out of probably 20 steps? Maybe more?

Planting the flowers was a bit harder than expected! I actually got my heartrate up digging those holes and broke a sweat LOL! We’ve had some heavy rains this week so I’m hoping my poor flowers don’t get drowned.

I have big plans for the yard, including building a stone patio area off of porch, and creating a rocky/stone area around our fire pit. I’d like to do as much of the work as possible ourselves.  Which is FUNNY because neither of us know much about building patios, planting, etc…. AND we have very little time on our hands. Needless to say, this is a long term goal. And as far as the short term, we’ll be lucky if I get the chance to finish planting the flowers I bought by the end of May.

I’ll keep updating as we go!

The makings of an amazing first Mother’s Day

Time has been moving at a faster pace than ever before, and I feel like I just had my baby, but yet, here we are in mid-May…and I just experienced my first Mother’s Day!

It was an amazing day. Becoming Harrison’s mama is the best thing I’ve done.

For those who know me, I have very strong preferences of what I want to do, and yet, I am as indecisive as they come. This often is a recipe for disaster. But yesterday, for whatever reason, things fell into place.

I grew up in Manhattan and going back there always feels like going home (even though my parents have moved away). We had an early lunch. We showed Harrison some important spots, like where I grew up; where we had our first kiss; where we got engaged. 

I got a cookie at Levain bakery for the first time in years!

We sat outside for a nice meal. It was raining, but we managed to stay relatively dry and cozy!

My favorite tomato soup!

Harrison took in the sights of the big city! This was his first time there!

Becoming a mother has been the best, but also, most profound change for me. I say this all the time, but you’re still you, and yet you also become another person. So having a mother’s day where I brought my new life into my old life was really special.

Black Friday finds 

This was the first Black Friday I spent shopping and I had so much fun. I spent the day with Ryan and his mom in Saratoga NY. We went to a mall; the cute shops along the Saratoga Main Street; and then to Lake George for some outlet shopping where they had an amazing LL Bean outlet. 

My favorite finds were online though. 


I had been waiting for this top to go on sale and J.Crew had an unprecedented 40% off your entire purchase for Black Friday. The top is cuter in person and I plan to wear it to my office holiday party next week, and maybe Christmas!


These sweater fleeces from LL Bean are really nice quality and a good fit – and I couldn’t resist the Buffalo Check pattern. I even talked my dad into buying one!


Ann Taylor had 50% off your entire purchase with no exclusions! I stocked up on cashmere turtlenecks which are my winter staple. 


I remember a time when Uggs never went on sale. Well, these (the Cyd boot) were more than 50% off at Zappos. I’d been eyeing them, (I showed them to my husband who said they were HIDEOUS!) hoping for a sale. They came in the mail yesterday and I’m in love. 


And last, but certainly not least, when you see a light up golden doodle – YOU BUY IT! Seriously, how cute is this??? (I found this at Michaels). 

Antiquing

Ryan and I are in the process of looking for a house to buy, and I thought it would be fun to start looking at some furniture and get a feel for how we might want to decorate our future house. I’m also always looking for cool accents, especially something that you can’t find in mass retail.

When I was a kid, we had a country house in the Poconos, and my parents would drag me around for hours of antiquing (and here I am, years later wanting to do the same thing! I NEVER WOULD’VE THOUGHT!), so I suggested going there as a good start.

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It was a nice drive, and we went to the very quaint town of Milford, PA. We didn’t buy anything, but the experience definitely gave us some good ideas for the future.  IMG_6083.JPG

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It’s also a cute town to stop in for lunch.

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I think one of my favorite things to do over the weekend is to explore – drive around, go to places we haven’t been (or return to places we haven’t been in a while), walk around, take pictures, get coffee, and feel like we had a little mini getaway. Looking at antiques gives these road trips more of a scavenger hunt/quest type feel.

It was a fun way to spend the day. We’re talking about trying out some auctions houses soon, which I’m VERY excited for. I’ll keep you posted.

Welcome back

Well, that’s really directed to me since it’s been over a week since I’ve blogged! I guess that’s what happens when you have a big summary judgment motion that you spend two weekends on #lawyerproblems. 

We also traveled upstate to Ryan’s family for Thanksgiving. 

The most exciting thing that happened to me was last Wednesday, when I got an amazing haircut and balayage highlights. 


I’ve seen Raquell at the Color Cafe in Greenwich for the past few years and she does an awesome job with color. Sometimes it takes me a few days to get used to a change, but last Wednesday I left the salon absolutely loving my hair. 

I hardly took any photos over Thanksgiving, but it was nice to have a little getaway from home and work, and to just relax. The highlight of Thanksgiving was the SNOW! 


This is possibly the worst picture I’ve ever taken, but the snow was beautiful. It snowed all day, and everything glistened. 

Hunter spent the holiday posing like a champ.

Even though in-laws in essence become your family, I always tend to feel like a bit of an outsider. Maybe it’s because the family dynamics are so different. Spending time with Ryan’s family makes me miss my family, especially at the holidays. I miss the traditions  and I get nostalgic for the past. 

Maybe next year we’ll spend thanksgiving in Florida with my parents? It would be nice! 

We spent most of Black Friday shopping – and I loved it. When I wasn’t shopping in a store, I was shopping online. 

We came back home on Saturday, and then we spent the rest of the weekend catching up on work, which sucked but it needed to get done. 

The next few weeks are filled with office parties, work reviews 😬, a wedding, Christmas, New Year’s Eve. We literally have something planned for almost every day through mid-January, and I’m going to try to enjoy it!